The last time I posted about Mom was in April, you can read the previous posts here.
There’s not much to add except that her decline has been slow and steady. She no longer sleeps all day…she’s back to sleeping at night but she does take a nap after the noon meal, which is the biggest meal of the day. She has a good appetite and has gained a little weight but looking at her face breaks my heart. It’s her blank look…I wonder where she is and I know that sometimes when I visit she’s just not there. I can’t connect, at least that’s how I feel. Maybe I am connecting with her on another level…I don’t know.
Santa was very kind, notice how he’s touching her. I don’t think she was aware of what was going on.
Her face says it here, she looks frightened.
When we moved off to the side and I explained to her that it was Santa, she got it….her face speaks for her.
She got a few small gifts and this pretty afghan which I think she liked. Everyone in the nursing home got a gift from the staff, I thought that was nice.
I can say that I am reasonably happy with her care there. There were a few small issues which are now resolved. You have to speak up for your loved one, be their advocate if they can’t speak for themselves. At my last care conference I had to face the reality that Mom has slipped into the end stages of Alzheimer’s. We will be using hospice to help care for her soon. She has periods when she is so mean and tries to kick people and she scolded me for touching her hair! That is just not my Mom.
The social worker is a young man who has lots of personal experience with Alzheimer’s and gently explained the stages and how the disease progresses. It’s very sad…….
But anyhow, there it is, an update on Mom. I’m amazed that I get asked about her so much in email and recently got this;
I have been wanting to write you.
Thank you. Your words comfort me on days when I feel alone. I recently moved my mother into my home. She is in the beginning stages and to say it gets frustrating (for both of us) is an understatement. My mother was a nurse so she understands some days what the future holds and it scares her. What a cruel disease this is… My brother was killed when we were children. My mother forgets one moment from the next, but everyday recalls the day she buried her son.
Thank you, Debra. You are not alone. You have touched the life of a woman in NJ.
It’s been about 4 years that I’ve been dealing with this and I still feel blessed to be able to help another by sharing my experience. My heart goes out to everyone who has an aging parent or a parent suffering from dementia. If you are a caregiver PLEASE remember to care for yourself.
Let your loved ones know that you love them and try to focus on what Christmas really means. Take great comfort in that because that’s all you can do.
Several years ago I discovered the ease of baking with parchment paper. Reynolds has a great website explaining how to use it for baking and cooking.
At that time it wasn’t easy to find, I had to get it at specialty stores, but now it’s available everywhere, even Walmart. The cookies almost slide right off the pan and you can wipe it off and use it over and over.
In the back pan, I’m using something called super parchment. It’s reusable and super easy to clean. A sheet costs about 5$ and if you do a lot of baking it’s definitely worth the price.
An alternative to parchment is a Silpat baking mat. I don’t have one…..it’s pretty pricy, around 25$, but probably lasts forever.
I made two pumpkin rolls and they came out of the pan so easily with parchment. In the picture, I’m pulling off the parchment after inverting the pan.
Now if I could discover the trick to rolling them up without cracking, any helpful hints?
It’s been snowing all day since about 5 a.m. We have about 6 –8 inches so far. The neighbor kids are out playing and the snow plow has gone by several times. The wind has picked up and drifts are staring to form…..I’m glad to be inside! Keep warm!
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As a Christmas gift many years ago, I received this red bundt pan from a very special woman in my life.
You can see by all the dings and scratches that’s it’s been used quite often. I should probably get a new one but whenever I use it I’m reminded of her. So I’ll think I’ll keep it.
Last week I tried a fast and easy recipe for pumpkin spice cake. It uses a mix and you can’t get much faster or easier than that!
It was so moist and yummy, even Bill liked it! So if you need a quick dessert for a party, this is a great recipe.
Combine 18oz spice cake mix with pudding in the mix with 15oz can of pumpkin, (not pumpkin pie mix)
add 3 eggs, 1/3 c canola oil, ½teas. cinnamon and 1/3 c water.
Mix for 2 minutes and bake @350 for 30-35 minutes. I had to bake longer for a bundt pan.
I drizzled it with a mixture of 10x sugar and milk and added chopped walnuts on top to dress it up for Christmas. Walnuts, pecans and raisins would be good in the cake too.
Added to Tasty Tuesday at Balancing Beauty and Bedlam.
Ladybugs and Lilypads Children’s Boutique. Due to tough economic times this fellow Mom blogger could use our help.
From wall art to tutus, her site features some of the cutest things for kids. Please visit her site and help her out if you can.
Tassimo Giveaway at Southern Hospitality.
Over at the DaySpring web site you’ll find lots of Jesus is the Gift items. I like them so much and wanted to display that sentiment in my home too. When I saw a little wooden tray at a thrift shop I knew it was perfect for a makeover.
I didn’t take a before picture, but this little tray had “mugs and kisses” written on it and was stained in a dark wood tone. After I painted it I used black markers for the words, put red paint on the rim and added a sparkly star in gold marker and glitter.
It’s not perfect but I really love it! The total cost of this project, 50¢! A little sprig of greenery and some ribbon I had and there it is. It’s my favorite decoration this year!
Sparkly star was created at Photobucket.
DIY day at A Soft Place to Land
Met Monday at Between Naps on the Porch
It’s so Very Cheri
DIY Showoff Holiday Highlights
Cottage Instincts Make it M
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Previously I did a post about smelly washers and a product used to remove THAT odor from most front loading washing machines. You know what odor I’m talking about! Yeah, that one!
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This was your average brass chandelier that was so popular several years ago. My #1 daughter has given it a whole new look. Perfect for her home today. She sprayed it white and covered the candlesticks with scrap book paper to really give it some zing.
What a great idea and you can easily change them out when the mood strikes.
The terracotta colored paper ties into the kitchen wall. She painted her oak cabinets white and painted the back splash wall terracotta.
She did a wonderful job on the cabinets too! This picture was before the wall was painted and new appliances installed.
The oak fireplace got some new molding and black paint. The marble is shiny and the paint is matte so it makes a nice contrast and looks great accessorized. When she moved in everything was blue, even the carpeting so she has totally changed the look by painting the walls a creamy white.
She did all this herself and even borrowed an extra tall ladder to take down the old and put up the new light fixture. I’m so proud!
My #2 daughter recently asked how to paint a dresser. You know I was more than happy to give advice. I’ll get you decorating yet!
A picture is worth 1000 words
Trash to Treasure at Reinvented