My dad has been in the hospital with pneumonia. He’s still in intensive care.
He was weaned off the vent and doing pretty well but he had to be put back on today. I thought he would be out of there by now but once again he’s teetering between getting well and losing his battle. Because of the sedation he can’t communicate well when he is on the vent.
When he can communicate, he wishes all to be done to prolong his life, so that’s what must be done, but doing that may lead to heart and kidney problems. At this point I just don’t know…..if he starts having heart problems or more kidney problems he wants intervention. So now what? It seems like going in circles if he needs a vent to breathe.
Last night he was in good spirits, joking and being a wise guy. It was good to see some of that come back. He’s a stubborn old guy who wants things his way and will try to manipulate you to get what he wants. Oh yeah, I’ve been on the receiving end many times……he guilts me into doing things.
My dad is 87 years old. In 1944, he served in WWII as a yeoman under Captain Rickover in Okinawa, Japan
Having gone through years of dealing with the effects of Alzheimer’s on my mom, this situation with my dad brings back a flood of feelings. I do feel like I have a little more support this time with my younger step brothers so decision making will be handled as a group. I’m the oldest and it feels like tons of weight on my shoulders. He does not have a living will or POA because he didn’t ever want to talk about it. Stubborn!
Today I’ll meet with the doctors and social workers to talk about palliative care and tracheostomy.
This is a tough situation. Caring for aging parents puts a lot of stress on the caregiver. I’m not trying to make this about me, I’m just trying to do what I can with God’s help. I call on Him for strength and clarity of mind to make the right decisions.
I’ve written many posts about caring for our aging parents, my mom and dad both. Some are hard for me to read.
If you or your parents don’t have living wills, wills or POA, I urge you to do so. It helps the family fulfill your wishes and makes it a little easier on them.
Thanks for visiting! Debra